Hello again. I trust that I haven't kept you on the edge of your seat waiting for the next post, haha.
It is not a new fact that men and women think differently. It is pretty obvious if you spend any time with the opposite gender that this is a true statement. The one thing you must remember is that girls are ALWAYS thinking...we always are mulling something over in our heads and trying to keep things organized and figured out. As where you can ask a man what they are thinking about and the reply is "nothing." I wouldn't be able to know if that is even possible, but guys do seem able to turn off at least the symptoms of thinking. Maybe that is their way of mulling things over. Regardless, at any given time some little tidbit of information will unlock a whole new train of thought that no one else would even give a second thought to. Why do I bring this up? Well, only just because I have been doing a lot of thinking recently. I'm about to make some huge decisions in my life and frankly, though I'm very excited, I'm also scared beyond measure. There are really only 3 things that make that better; prayer, talking, and THINKING. So, last night at work, I had a strange shift. I had to work from 12 am to 9 am to bring out the spring line of clothes. This was an enjoyable time because it was just a few associates, NO customers :), we turned the music up loud, and danced. We each had a several projects to do. In doing these projects it left a lot of time time to think. When I get into a rhythem like preparing for a lab, or busting shipment, or anything that I can do "mechanically" (that is, rhythm-like), it instantly triggers the thought wheels turning. Especially working through the night when I'm most used to sleeping, a lot of the "straightening out" process was lost...more dream-like than I realized at the time. But needless to say, I made it through the shift...otherwise there wouldn't be this post...you get the picture.
Guys, on the other hand, seemingly handle thinking and stressful situations differently. It is more introspective and quiet, as were girls can't wait to spill some new revelation. Guys don't want to appear stressed or lost cuz that is their thing...they command control of their lives and anything less than that is a unacceptable to them. To me, this is quite facinating. I comend them for the ability to set everything aside and get whatever has to be done finished, regardless of what is on their mind. Not that girls can't accomplish anything when deep in thought, but it is usually hard to separate the thinking about 5 million different things while working. Yes, that is a slight exaggeration but hey I'm a girl and isn't that something we are known for? haha This is one thing that makes men better presidents...ok so that was my political instert, haha... It is amazing to realize that guys and girls can be so similar but so different on such a basic level.
So again, why is this the topic of today's discussion? well maybe it's a foreshadow for future posts...some things might seem very random but hey that's the nature of thinking in my head sometimes. It actually gets me into trouble sometimes. The little tidbit above about little things triggering a avalanche of thought is not always good. Though it sometimes leads to accurate interpretations, it often leads to disappointment, confusion, or frustration. On that note, I will let you know that some of my posts will be shallow in nature and some will be deep.
Well with that, I must go and get ready for work... Have a wonderfully blessed day :)
Dr. Jess, M.D.
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We (Danny Latin and myself) came to a startling conclusion the night before spring break last year: I think, to an extent, somewhat like a girl. For example, I manifest some of the "symptoms" you described; I link things together in my mind in a rapid and seemingly unrelated fashion, mindless mechanical work sets the gears in my head turning, I like to share the conclusions I've drawn as a result of this process, etc. At the same time, however, I also maintain and display the guy-type characteristics, the most notable of which is the "nothing" response when asked about what we're thinking (I think this encompasses most of the observable aspects of the male thought process, because, evidently, there's not much more that women can see beyond that). I likened it to Blade, the vampire hunter of Marvel comics fame: he's half-human half-vampire. The difference between myself and Blade is that he actually tracks down and kills vampires, while I just irritate most of the girls I come across. But I digress. I initially intended to write my own blog post about this subject, but it never materialized, so I suppose this outlet is just as good.
ReplyDeleteIt seems like you posed a question and then answered it for yourself later on in the post, and you basically hit the nail right on the head. You wondered how guys can ever possibly be thinking about nothing at all. Personally, I'm always thinking about SOMETHING or other... I don't know if that's the female side of my hybrid mind talking or if that's the way everyone is, but I would be willing to bet that everyone is that way. The difference between guys and girls is that guys like to keep things to themselves more often than girls do. It's no secret that girls are more emotionally driven than guys, and so it's also no surprise that they need to vent more often, whereas a guy will, at times, when asked what he is thinking, simply respond "nothing." This doesn't mean he's actually thinking about nothing, it just means he doesn't want to talk about the particular subject on which his thoughts are centered, and this stems from the same concept you later addressed in your post, the notion that guys like to be in control of their lives and circumstances. We never want to show signs of weakness, and sometimes our thoughts may betray our composed exteriors, so we keep them to ourselves.
Granted, girls probably think about a lot more things at once than guys, and I think I can relate to this because I often have about a million things flying around my brain at one time. My attempts to reconcile them all at once are often futile, so I have to devote a period of time to each thing before I can move on to the next one, and I imagine this is where the guy in me takes over. As far as I know, girls are much better at multi-tasking, whereas guys can handle one big problem better than girls can, and I guess it's no different when it comes to the area of thought processes.
Anyway, this was a very enjoyable post to read, exactly what I was hoping for when I heard you were starting this blog. Keep it up, I'm always anxious to get more insight into the wonderland that is the female mindset.